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About BAMFT

At Bay Area Marriage and Family Therapy, our goal is to help SAVE people’s marriages and significant relationships.

We are a psychotherapy practice that aims to deliver the most effective and culturally relevant counseling services to people in the San Francisco and Peninsula Bay Area. We want to help you simplify the relationship you’re in, so you and your partner can enjoy it more thoroughly and lovingly. We don’t use complicated or intimidating jargon; nor do we want to psychoanalyze you for years. Instead, we focus on your strengths and your vision of what type of relationship you’d like to create, and we want to help you “graduate” from therapy ASAP so you can independently practice the skills and tools you’ve uncovered from within.

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Couples Counselor Burlingame Kin Leung

Kin Leung, MFT

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License No. and State: MFT 46119 California

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I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a special expertise working with Asian American families, couples, and individuals practicing in the San Francisco Bay Area, Burlingame, CA.

Originally from Hong Kong and bilingual in Cantonese, my identity as an Asian Psychotherapist has helped me better understand and appreciate the challenges Asians in the United States face.

Although I have a special interest in working with Asians, many non-Asian clients benefit from my service due to my bicultural background and I believe I can offer you a unique perspective to reach your goals.

It is my goal to provide the most effective therapy service for people in need, regardless of cultural background, Asian and non-Asian alike.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, my specialty is in helping people repair relationships that have been unsatisfying for them. It can be a couple battling with trust issues while trying to recover from an affair. It can be a parent desperately trying to figure out why his/her child keeps making the same poor decisions. Or it can be an intimate relationship that has simply lost its spark over the years. My ultimate goal is to help you become the happy person that you deserve to be.

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Julie Tobin, MS, LCSW

Julie Tobin, MS, LCSW

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License No. and State: LCSW 10837 California

Pain and suffering in life are inevitable. When we are hurting inside, we can’t function at our best at home or work – even if we have gotten very good at hiding it.

I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 30 years of experience providing psychotherapy for individuals, couples and families. Over this time, I have worked in my own private psychotherapy practice, in community mental health and in multiple medical settings. I have been fortunate to work with and get to know hundreds of individuals and families, with widely-varying problems and with diverse backgrounds, ethnicities, sexual orientations and family configurations.

I deeply believe that therapy can provide a safe space to explore what is troubling, what causes stress, what’s led to feeling stuck or unsatisfied with life. Developmental events, such as leaving home, forming an important relationship bond, becoming a parent, challenging oneself in work or a relationship loss can all be times of greater stress and opportunities for growth. Human being are complicated; each one of us has a unique combination of traits and experiences. We all are lifelong learners about our emotions and our relationships to others. In therapy, you can expect to be listened to deeply, to have the room to explore where you are in your emotional development and to learn new patterns of behavior, coping mechanisms and ways of relating to others that can help you live authentically, peacefully and happily.

My own family history of immigration, as well as working with many immigrants and people of color, has helped me be sensitive to the competing needs to honor and stay true to our heritage while responding to and incorporating the current culture, to remain a loyal a member of our own family while also developing individual traits and goals. In addition, I bring an attunement to the challenges of living every day in a country that hasn’t worked out its own history and current relationship to its diverse and immigrant past and present.

I received a Master in Social Work from UC Berkeley and graduated from an intensive psychotherapy training program at The Psychotherapy Institute in Berkeley.

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We have decades of experience working with individuals, couples, and families as psychotherapists and supervisors in the San Francisco and Peninsula area.

We have the personal experience of living in different cultures and understand the struggles many families go through. It is our goal and dedication to provide therapy service that is suitable for each family in need.

THE WAY WE WORK:
Stereotypically speaking, the traditional therapist is more “laid back” and “passive”. The goal is to create a supportive atmosphere where clients can find their own answers. On the other hand, in our experience working with many clients, we find ourselves being able to work more effectively when we provide more direct guidance for their issues. Although we can be more directive when we see appropriate, we never lose sight of each client’s uniqueness, so that we can strike the right balance between respecting their values and challenging them to deeper exploration. Even though we specialize in providing therapy for Asian Americans, we work comfortably in a variety of cultures.

CULTURAL DIVERSITY:
As stated above, we work with people from from all cultures. The fact that some of us in our practice are Asian has allowed us to reach the Asian population very successfully. On the other hand, cultural diversity is not just about working within one’s own culture. In that regard, we are very fortunate to have worked with people from all walks of life, including clients of different ethnicities, socio-economic statuses, sexual orientations, life experiences, etc. Through our privileged experience of working with such vast backgrounds of people, we have learned to develop a cultural awareness that is conducive to the positive change that clients come to our office for.

THEORETICAL ORIENTATION:
We consider ourselves Relational Therapists in that we help people understand the dynamics of their families and interpersonal relationships with others. Therapy is a microcosm and direct reflection of your life in which many of your behavior patterns and attitudes will emerge. Instead of allowing them to cause dysfunction in your life, in the context of therapy, you will feel the safety where you can take a genuine look at your struggles, and we can then work together to examine those patterns and explore constructive alternatives to replace them.

Individuals
Couples
Family
Child or Adolescent
Relationship Issues
Parenting Issues
Trauma and PTSD
Depression
Infidelity
Divorce
Grief
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We help people understand the dynamics of their relationships.

If you’re in a struggling relationship, it’s likely there are times when you feel trapped. How often do you feel like giving up, or just telling yourself the relationship is doomed, no matter what? On top of it all, there are plenty of myths and stereotypes surrounding couple’s therapy. Unfortunately, these cliches have gotten into the heads of many couples who could work things out with the right techniques and resources.

No one ever wants to see a relationship end, when it could thrive with just a few changes. It’s time to look at couple’s therapy in a new light, without all the old lingering stereotypes. There are many benefits to learning these skills, both individually, and in a relationship. It doesn’t matter whether you’re young, old, in a long-term relationship or just starting, gay, straight, etc. It can be beneficial for everyone! Let’s cover a few of the biggest benefits you’ll be able to receive when you give couple’s therapy a chance.

IT CAN CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE
Oftentimes, arguments and problems that occur in a relationship are a matter of perspective. We all see things differently – that’s what makes us unique. Frequently, it’s also what allows us to complement one another in relationships. However, when you don’t attempt to see things the way your partner does, it becomes nearly impossible for a disagreement to get sorted out. Instead, you get stuck playing “the blame game.”

Couple’s therapy and marriage counseling can help you to change the way you see things, and listen to what your partner has to say from an objective standpoint. Assuming they are automatically attacking you, or that they always have a completely different opinion is a recipe for disaster. Instead, learning the tools and resources that can help to shift your perspective can make a huge difference in the way you disagree.

YOU’LL LEARN CORRECT BEHAVIORS
None of us are perfect, and couple’s therapy can’t make you or your partner that way, either. However, it does teach you to modify destructive behaviors within your relationship. Therapists will try to change the way you behave around your partner for the better. This includes everything from your daily interactions, to making sure you don’t cause harm to one another (emotionally or physically).

YOU CAN OPEN UP FREELY
Some people have a harder time being vulnerable than others. Unfortunately, if someone (or both people) in a relationship is keeping things bottled up inside, it’s only a matter of time before it explodes. This can either cause huge arguments, or keep couples at a distance. Not openly expressing your feelings is one of the biggest reasons couples tend to ‘grow apart.’

We will use techniques and tools designed to help you and your partner showcase your feelings, in general, and toward one another. The more open you learn to be, the easier the lines of communication can flow freely.

YOU WILL FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS
When you’re in a tight spot within your relationship, it may be impossible to see the light at all. You may think that there are no ‘good’ parts of your relationship, but that is rarely the case. Sometimes, it just takes the right person and resources to bring those good aspects to the surface. A qualified couple’s therapist will bring the strengths of your relationship to the surface, and teach you how to focus on them, instead of your weaknesses.

It’s easy to fall into despair when your relationship isn’t where you want it to be. However, it doesn’t have to crumble completely. Take a long look at your relationship, and consider what you really want before giving up on it completely. The benefits of couple’s therapy are greater than most people realize, and well worth the experience.

Why do we keep arguing over the same things day after day? Why does he/she seem not to care anymore? How did we drift so far apart? Where is the person that I was so in love with before? Is it going to just end here?

These are very common questions for people to ask before they enter Couples Therapy. Your marriage is a commitment and an enormous emotional investment that is worth fighting for. With the eminent divorce rate in the United States, it is normal for people to question whether they have what it takes to stay together in the long run.

SOME COMMON CONCERNS THAT PEOPLE BRING TO COUPLES THERAPY INCLUDE:

  • Extramarital affairs
  • Ongoing arguments
  • Role distribution
  • Need for personal space
  • Emotional emptiness/distance
  • Parenting issues
  • Empty nest

In Couples Therapy, you will learn skills to restore clarity, trust, and intimacy in the relationship; we will teach you to get what you want in your marriage; by the same token, you will also learn to meet your partner’s needs, so it will become a mutually satisfying relationship again.

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Adult Therapy

Therapy is a microcosm and direct reflection of your life.

Finding yourself in the same kind of hurtful relationship time after time? Not being able to move on from the past? The fear of failure is keeping you from pursuing the life that you deserve? Feeling uncertain how you’ll ever get out of this depression?

Although many people with mental disorders go to therapy to get help, the majority of the people in therapy are not diagnosable with an emotional disorder. They are simply people who have problems, just like everyone else, and need a place where they can talk about their thoughts and feelings, so they can regain some clarity and perspective in life. Some common problems that people come to therapy for are:

  • Going through a painful break up
  • Lacking a sense of direction in life
  • Worries that won’t go away
  • Losing a loved one
  • Working through excessive and unhealthy “habits” (e.g. alcohol/substance and eating)
  • Issues with family of origin

With over a decade of experience as a psychotherapists, we have to say that therapy is not for everyone. However, those who choose to give themselves a chance to experience the process of therapy tend to come out with a better understanding of what they have to do to solve their problems and to get more satisfaction out of life.

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Adolescent Therapy

Is it impossible for your child to listen to you although you have their best interest at heart? Does your teenager keep making the same bad mistakes over and over? Wondering what happened to the little angels they used to be? Feeling like you have exhausted all the options in terms of parenting?

Adolescence is a period marked by the desire to become independent and self-sufficient. It is a dramatic transition for both the parents and the teenagers because the needs of the teens have become more confusing and unpredictable, even for themselves. Naturally, parents want to help by trying to be more involved in their child’s life, but it is often met by resistance and rebellion. Some common problems in adolescence include:

  • Self-Consciousness
  • Unexplainable outbursts of emotions
  • High risk behaviors (e.g. drugs/alcohol and being sexually active)
  • Losing a sense of direction in life
  • Isolating behavior (e.g. refusing to participate in family activities or running away)

During a time of transition, adolescent psychotherapy can be immensely helpful because it allows the teens to express themselves without feeling judged and to learn to make responsible decisions. By having a safe and trusting place that is outside of home, many teenagers can sort through their own problems while becoming more respectful and independent.

You may ask: “Why can’t my kid talk to me directly?” That is a fair question because it is often a painful reality for parents to realize that their kids are growing up and may not need as much of their guidance. The trick in better understanding your kids is to learn when to pull and when to let go. Once your kids understand that you are not trying to dominate their lives, they would feel more comfortable sharing their problems with you and accepting your support.

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Family Therapy

Do you feel out of touch with your family? Does your partner seem too busy or occupied in his/her own world? Your kids no longer interested in spending time with you?Wondering where the communication and understanding have gone in the family?

A family goes through many phases that require constant adjusting; from the honeymoon period between a couple to planning to have children; from deciding ways to discipline their teenagers to dealing with in-law issues. During adjustments like that, families can get caught in the mundane logistics of life and start developing problems in their relationships with each other, such as:

  • Parenting a child with a learning disability or behavior problems
  • Hostile or lack of communication between parents and children
  • Extended family issues (e.g. In-laws)
  • Constant misunderstanding between family members
  • Clash of values between mainstream and Asian cultures

Communication is key in building strong relationships within a family. Sometimes people mistakenly think that communication is about WHAT is said; rather, it is HOW it is said that determines if a message gets across. Therefore, in Family Therapy, you and your family will learn to communicate in an honest, effective, and accepting manner that enables understanding and love to show.

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Starting

  • Consultation

    We offer a free 30-minute consultation (either on the phone or in my office), so you can get a sense of whether we have a good match. It is also an opportunity for me to decide whether or not we will be able to help you.

  • Fees

    Our current fee is $250.00 for each 50-minute session.

    Payment

    Cash or check accepted for payment at the time of service.

  • Cancellation Policy

    If you do not attend your scheduled therapy appointment, and you have not notified me at least 24 hours in advance, you will be required to pay the full cost of the session.

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Insurance

It is only fair for anyone to want to use their insurance for their health care. However, when it comes to therapy, we’d like you to be aware of the pros and cons of the decision. The pros are obvious: if you are eligible and qualified, insurance companies will pay for part of the sessions if they decide that it is a medical necessity.

On the other hand, the cons are not so obvious: In order for insurance companies to pay for your therapy, they require an official Mental Health Disorder Diagnosis. Like we mentioned earlier, many people in therapy are simply struggling with day-to-day issues and do not fit any diagnostic labeling. For example, an unhappy couple without any mental health history is not going to qualify for coverage.

For those that are more heavily impacted by their emotional issues and are diagnosable with a mental health disorder diagnosis, it is still tricky to decide whether or not using their insurance would be in their best interest.

First, usually there is a limited number of therapists you can choose from within the network and the number of sessions allowed in a year is very low (3-12 sessions).

Second, it is understandable that many people feel uncomfortable with being labeled as mentally ill because it is something that will stay on one’s medical record which is likely to make it very difficult and expensive to purchase future medical and life insurance policies.

Third, to qualify for coverage, insurance companies often require therapists to delineate intimate details of the client’s problems and circumstances. In other words, therapy is overseen and scrutinized by insurance companies to determine necessity and the therapist would have to prove that one is “sick” enough to warrant therapy.

In contrast, when therapy does not involve insurance, it remains confidential between you and your therapist. Not only that, you have the option of choosing the right therapist with whom you feel there is a connection. After all, finding a therapist is similar to finding a confidant; trust and connection are key to the success of the therapy.

Ultimately, it is up to you to decide whether you’d like to use insurance for your therapy, but we’d be happy to address any questions you may have and assist you in making that important and personal decision. You can have a free consultation or make an appointment.

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Bay Area Marriage and Family Therapy, Inc.

Kin Leung is a Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT practicing in the San Francisco Bay area. Kin specializes in helping couples overcome struggles related to infidelity, intimacy, miscommunication, mistrust, and parenting. Kin’s kind, thoughtful and compassionate approach to marriage counseling San Francisco helps guide couples to a calmer and safer space to explore issues and move forward in a more productive manner.

405 Primrose Rd.
Suite 314
Burlingame, CA 94010
415 335 3787

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